Life & Stuff, You're As Mad As I Am (Mental Health)

Opening Up About My Insecurities

We all have insecurities, these negative self-beliefs that hinder our outlook on the world and how we live. These can be all sorts of things, but I bet there’s quite a few that are common among all of us.

Here, I’ve opened up about my own insecurities with the aim at bringing them into the light so that I can combat them, as well as help you all feel less alone in your horrid insecurities, too.

  • My appearance: I don’t like the way I look a lot of the time. I don’t know how to style my hair, do my makeup, or wear clothes that feel stylish and ME. I don’t often look in the mirror and feel happy with who’s looking back.
  • My intellect: there’s a big belief in my mind that just because I don’t have a university degree, that I am less than a lot of people. That I am dumb. That I don’t know enough. I compare what I know to others and always see myself as the less smart out of the two of us.
  • My writing ability: again, I always compare my own writing to what I read, or what I see from my writer friends. I get annoyed at myself for not crafting what I imagine. I don’t feel like a good enough writer, which is so difficult when this is not only my career and passion, but also a big part of my identity.
  • My anxiety: I feel like the fact that I have anxiety, means I will always be limited in my life. I’ll never quite get anywhere. And I also feel like it’s this ugly label that causes people to judge me negatively.
  • My likability: a big part of my social anxiety is the belief that I am boring and not as good as other people. This is less so now, thankfully, but I still have a big insecurity about my likability. That people will never like me as much as my sister, my brother, my boyfriend, my friends…
  • That I’m behind people: I believe, sometimes, that I am trotting behind everyone else. That my brother and sister are ahead of me in terms of life experience and intellect. I believe I’m behind my friends and acquaintances who have degrees or good careers. I believe I’m just not at the level I should be at.
  • That I’m boring…
  • That I’m not good enough…
  • That’s I’m not capable enough…
  • That I’m not interesting or fun enough…
  • That I don’t know enough general knowledge…
  • That I’m not a woman, but instead a girl…
  • That I speak poorly…
  • That I’m not a good girlfriend…
  • That I’m not brave enough to become successful…
  • That I’m not the idea of a best-selling author, so I never will be one…
  • That I don’t have a style or look or any individuality…
  • That I don’t know what I’m doing, truly, and people will see that…
  • That I don’t have anything of real value to give and share…

Despite my insecurities, though, I keep trying. I try to ignore them, change them, work on them, or at least be aware that they’re there and that some of the things I do or feel come from my insecurities, instead of external factors.

It is so important to look within not outward when a bad situation occurs.

I see these insecurities, and I know you have your own. The worst thing you can do is not be aware that they’re there, because I bet they are controlling your life behind the scenes.

For example, I’ve gotten angry at my boyfriend for not helping me cook. Initially, I snapped a bit. But then I looked within and realised that I wasn’t angry at him for not helping me, I was really angry at myself for needing his help because I’d made a mistake with the recipe. I then apologised to him, explained why I snapped, and we hugged it out. He also apologised to me anyway. We avoided a bad situation, didn’t hold on to anger, and both had a great meal afterwards!

The crisis was averted because I was able to look within and spot where my anger truly came from. And then I was able to admit it and fix the situation with maturity.

I’m not saying I’m perfect at this. I’m far from it. But it’s an effective, healthy way to live and I suggest you start doing the same.

For you, and for your relationships and your life.


If you need any help in bettering your mental health, or better coping with anxiety, depression, and stress, then my book “You’re As Mad As I Am” may be for you. Check it out here, and download a free sample to see what it’s all about.

If you want to hire me to write about mental health (or other), then don’t hesitate to get in touch!

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