All I Want for Christmas

This year for Christmas, I want to ask for the biggest thing of all: Confidence. It’s all I want this year. It’s all I want for years to come. For with confidence, I am brave enough to chase my dreams despite the nightmares attached to the pursuit. Confidence will make me beautiful. Confidence will hold…

Change the Narrative

I don’t think I’m the only one who tells myself stories (and no, not because I’m an author). I mean the stories we tell ourselves about of lives and our Self. They can be labels, ideas, “evidence-based facts” or other, but there’s a lot of things that we just accept and believe about our lives…

“Real Horrors” – Poem

You know what’s really scary? Not prowling black cats, Or mouse traps, Or dead rats. No. What’s really scary Is gunshots, Black bodies, And broken families. Black lives matter, But the scary thing is, They don’t. Not to you all. Do they matter to you? What’s scary is, The white child who “Doesn’t need to…

Why I Talk About Mental Health

Of course, the first reason I write about mental health and self-development is to help people. No, not because I am some expert or because my life is so great and my MH is in tiptop condition. But because I believe that sharing any advice and tips can really help someone to make changes. If what I say gives someone an idea that then helps make their lives or their MH a little better, then job well done.

Stages of Life

The stages of our lives can be very important to who we are or who we can become. I know that I’ve gone through many stages of life that have changed without my realising it – until I looked back and saw the transition. But what’s so important about this? Why do they matter? Well,…

How to Make Better Life Decisions

I don’t know about you, but I am rubbish at decision making! I nearly always second-guess myself and give myself a headache with all the overthinking *sigh*. Aside from pros and cons lists, decision making can be tough. And there’s been times when a pros and cons list just hasn’t been enough to help me…

Cheer for Yourself

I will be honest, this post comes from a place of upset and is emotionally driven – but I felt it would be important to share. I look around my living room at home and you know what I see? Pictures of my brother’s graduation, my mother’s graduation, my sister’s trampolining and gymnastics competition photos,…

Crafting your life – Poem

Trying to hold onto the paper, but it tears and tears, they fall. Cages lock me in. Every way you look, there’s bars. I’m trapped. Foolish to think, I could ever be free. Freedom is an idea, That can’t be made real. But we build Build Build. Chip away at the edges, Try to create…

Life is too damn short

Life is too short to waste time being angry at people you love. Too short to ask “why?” and dwell on the past. Too short to wait for apologies. Too short to blame people (or yourself) for things going wrong. Too short to wait for summer, the weekend, and holidays. Too short to waste time…

What A Panel of Black Authors Meant for Me

On Tuesday this week, I was able to hear authors Tomi Adeyemi (pictured with me above), Yomi Adegoke, and Elizabeth Uviebinene talk at a bookstore. These authors all had one thing in common – they were black, and they were Nigerian. It was a euphoric experience! I’m not the kind of woman (and never was…