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Perspective

I find that perspective is the most important tool to checking yourself (or rather, getting yourself in check). As I’ve gotten older, I’ve found my ability to check-myself and put things into perspective has increased tenfold, and I’m writing this IEG article today about perspective because this morning I finished reading “The Fault in Our Stars”, my old friend Tahlia’s favourite book.

I say old friend, not because she passed away three years ago, but because I had known her since we were toddlers. We grew up together. My mom taught her how to ride a bike. We went to the same primary school, the same senior school, and she was very present and important in my life, even with our differences .

Perspective for me has become strong since her passing. A twenty year old girl was taken from the world due to an illness. It’s horrid. It’s cruel. We all knew she would pass before 40 but it was Tahlia, you know? If anyone would survive and stick their middle finger up to Cystic Fibrosis it would be her.

But alas, it took her.

And I hated myself because I didn’t get chance to meet up with her one last time before she passed. We spoke, and if there was any bad energy before, it was long gone. I forgave her for our somewhat troubled teenhood, and she was over my leaving our friendship group. We moved on. We were adults and we were happy for each other.

It’s so special that she read the first edition of the first book in my Eternity series. She popped up to me and was enthused about it. It felt amazing that she was still supporting my dream after we hadn’t spoken properly since school.

I could go on about our time together and how unique our relationship was and how awful it was to hear that she’d passed and how I broke down at her funeral in 2015, but that’s our business. She knows how I feel.

The reason I bring her up is because these days when I feel crappy and get tired and feel low – I remember her and how she was ill her whole life but it never stopped her from living.

When I don’t feel like writing, I remember how she believed in me and how she too was a writer who had her voice cut short. And so, in her honour, I must continue to write. Always. It would be a slap to the face not to.

Perspective.

Not everyone has someone who can help them to put things into perspective, so I’m here to help.

There are so many people who aren’t able to live as we can, and so we must live instead.

Stop wasting time being angry with people you love (or people you don’t love, especially), as it just doesn’t matter enough. It just doesn’t. What if they got sick or were hurt and you couldn’t see them again? Would all the anger have been worth it?

Put your anger into perspective.

Put your sadness into perspective.

Put your unproductive days into perspective.

Think.

It’s easier said than done, I know. There’s days when perspective doesn’t happen, but at least try. For some reason, I’ve been bitter and angry lately but I put my emotions into perspective and realised that I’m angry for internal reasons, not external, and I can’t take it out on others.

It really helps to be honest with yourself and do this for yourself, too.

Ways to gain perspective:

  • Appreciate that there are many of those who are less fortunate than you and though everyone’s problems are valid, it can help you to drown a little less in them when you consider this.
  • Think of those who are gone. You have life and they’d give anything to have it.
  • Read.
  • Write.
  • Watch films.
  • Meditate.
  • Do Yoga.
  • Walk.
  • Speak with a friend.

Doing these things can help to clear your head and gain some perspective. A clearer, wider view of your life, your problems, your actions, and your purpose.

These things are important for a better life. They’re important for being a better person. You will be in better control of your emotions, too. A lot of people are bad people without realising it. They’re bitter, angry, selfish, poisonous, negative and sometimes downright awful. But perspective helps you to realise what you’re doing and thinking, in order to move forwards with a better mind.

When I put things into perspective, I realise I have a lot to be grateful for. I have achieved a lot for my age and where I come from and what I have. I’m lucky. I should remember that. I should hold on to that. I will always try to have perspective in trying situations, and you should, too.

So please, try.

How Your Prejudice Affects a Person’s Life

We all have prejudices. They stem from our upbringing, influences, and our experiences. From these things, we are kind of “taught” how to act in a certain situation. And this extends to how we treat others, too.

However, how often do we actually consider what our prejudices do to other people. How we make them feel by having these prejudices.

Prejudice is defined as “preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience”

I think the simple way to put it is “pre-judgement.”

Here’s some examples of how prejudice or pre-judgement works from my point of view:

A person is brought up to believe in the teachings of Christianity. However, they have parents who are a bit strict. The see people outside of their religion as sinners. The child will grow up to believe this, too. They will largely associate with other Christians and believe those without a faith to be bad people. This is forming a prejudice against non-Christians.

Another example is this –

A person has been treated wrongly by a member of a certain race. They were rude or violent or scary. This person then believes that all members of that race must be the same. They see this as fact because they have “experienced it” and therefore they see nothing wrong in their beliefs. However, this is prejudice. They are making a pre-judgement of everyone of a certain race based on one poor situation. It is a gross overgeneralisation.

We know what prejudice is but we don’t know what the effects are on others. How it makes them feel to be the subject of prejudice.

Here’s but a few ways your prejudice affects those on the receiving end of it:

  • Loss of friends
  • Lack of opportunities
  • Lowered job prospects
  • Lower income
  • Less relationship opportunities
  • Racism
  • Sexism
  • Homophobia
  • Violence
  • Verbal abuse
  • Treated as less than
  • Excluded
  • Mental health issues: anxiety and depression, namely
  • Less education/unfair treatment in education
  • Discrimination
  • Loneliness
  • Poverty
  • Limited to one ideal
  • Stereotypes
  • Deaths
  • Incarceration
  • Unfair and inaccurate portrayals in the media

This is a lot. Imagine if any of these things effected you and your life. It would severely hinder it on a day to day basis, and more often than not, the person or people have no real reason to have such a prejudice against you in the first place.

Sickening, isn’t it?

Something so “small” and quick as a pre-judgment or stereotype can cause incredible harm and hurt to one’s life. Be careful with your thoughts for they become actions and behaviours that affect the world around you. And more importantly, the people of this world.

We are all just human, living our lives in our own way. Be open minded and allow people to live their way. Don’t stop them. Don’t control them. And don’t limit them with your prejudice.

Instead, give everyone a fair chance to demonstrate who they are.

Thank you.

Introducing My IEG Articles

Hey guys, those who follow my blog may have noticed that I write about a lot of different things. What can I say? I’m an interesting person, with many interests! This extends to my writing, too. I like to write about many things, mostly things that inspire thought in others.

Enter, IEG.

The IEG articles that I will post on here, on occasion, will be about serious social topics. They may be interviews with real people; my own thoughts; or research I’ve gathered with an aim to educate.

IEG stands for Inspire. Educate. Guide.

Any IEG articles that I post, will aim to get my readers thinking in a way that they may not have done previously. I really want to influence the world, and I believe that the younger generation have a very important job to do – open their minds more than their ancestors did.

IEG will aim to open minds.

Of course, some articles may be considered controversial. They may entice discussion. They may even anger people, but I know those people will probably be the closed minded ones amongst us.

I will say this: I do not aim to offend anyone. Never, ever. I consider myself to be an open minded person, and of course if I ever get my facts wrong, educate me, don’t belittle or try to upset me.

With IEG, I aim to help people find a new way of thinking, not change their thoughts or control them. All you need to do is consider something from another angle for ten seconds, and you may just learn something…

Some topics that I hope to touch on are:

  • Racism
  • Sexism
  • Mental Health
  • Sexuality and identity
  • Third world countries
  • Religion
  • Poverty
  • Abuse (sexual, physical, cyber, domestic, emotional, etc)
  • The elderly
  • Education
  • Lifestyle
  • And more

As you can see, these are some heavy topics and I’ll try to always approach them delicately. I have met so many people who have had issues with the things listed above, and I believe their experiences need to be shared in order to help them feel less alone, and educate people on their affects.

I don’t know how well this project will do, or if I’ll post many, but we’ll see. All we can do is try to change the world, little by little, and I choose to do that with my writing.

I hope you can try to do the same. Stay tuned.

If you or anyone you know has an interesting story to share about any of the topics mentioned above, please get into contact with me. Thank you.