I had a (small) panic attack Sunday night. I was crying, sweating, thinking a million things at once, breathing rapidly, and shaking. My chest was tight. I felt out of control. And it wasn't nice. It wasn't fun. I hadn't had a panic in a while, so I did beat myself up for it having… Continue reading What My Panic Attack Taught Me
The reason why I chose to unpack this phrase "looks can be deceiving" today was because I was in my room trying to will myself to leave the house. I almost convinced myself not to go out because the weather looked cold and grey. As a freelancer, blogger, and author, I really don't have to… Continue reading Looks Can Be Deceiving…
It's September, guys, and I don't know about you but I am feeling kind of like I've got a chance to start afresh. I don't know if it's because it's the changing of the season, or because we used to start a new school year in September, but for the first time I'm not sad… Continue reading Limits to Change
Trying to hold onto the paper, but it tears and tears, they fall. Cages lock me in. Every way you look, there's bars. I'm trapped. Foolish to think, I could ever be free. Freedom is an idea, That can't be made real. But we build Build Build. Chip away at the edges, Try to create… Continue reading Crafting your life – Poem
Sometimes, sadly, in order to be productive, we have to force it. The best way to ensure something gets done is to give yourself no other choice but to do it. Yes, this can be a little frustrating, but it can really work when you're trying something new or trying to build new habits that… Continue reading Force It!
On Tuesday this week, I was able to hear authors Tomi Adeyemi (pictured with me above), Yomi Adegoke, and Elizabeth Uviebinene talk at a bookstore. These authors all had one thing in common - they were black, and they were Nigerian. It was a euphoric experience! I'm not the kind of woman (and never was… Continue reading What A Panel of Black Authors Meant for Me
*This is a controversial blog post, I know. I am saying, or at least trying to, that labels can be damaging and that we need to be careful when using them...* Here are the biggest labels that we use on one another to try to categorise and "understand" one another better: White Black Asian Mixed… Continue reading Identity Labels That We Need to Remove